Wednesday, June 22, 2011

My Dear Coquet...


.... The coquets of both sexes are self-lovers, and that is a love no other whatever can dispossess.....

- John Gay (The Beggar's Opera)

It is slightly unfair to start on such a narcissistic note but on the other hand that is something they have had to face from society and its members..... before anything, for all those who may not know, a Coquet is someone who behaves flirtatiously with no serious intention.... now this definition alone is enough to attract a few and tick off a few.... but please, do not judge them...... they are perhaps blamed, even more than their brazen and promiscuous counterparts..... some even refuse to acknowledge a distinction...... while both are to be given their due respect, they aren't the same.... they are different ball games altogether...... the coquets by nature look for fun and light hearted interactions..... they move freely and while they do push the envelope - eventually there is a line they will not let you or anyone cross...... it may be one of the most irksome features of the coquet...... they walk uninhibited by the inherent rules and boundaries created by society..... they dont believe in such lines, or atleast they feel they are a little blurred.......
You may even be able to spot the coquet.... they are the men who walk with a confident stride who personally and tastefully respond to the approving looks of each onlooker..... they are the women who run their fingers through her wild free hair and smiles most becomingly at both the businessman who crosses her path and the cobbler she passes alongside....... what is most attractive about them is their unabashed straightforwardness coupled with their wit and charm....... they are not all supermodel looks, they may not even be in their prime..... but what you do find common amongst them is the frivolous spontaneity, a complete disregard towards commitment, drunk with the idea of love - which they prefer to keep as just an 'idea' and a tantalizing love for The Chase..... but often for these very endearing faculties they are labelled and looked down upon..... but they can't really help it and its not that they haven't tried...... its true, chances are they have broken a few hearts and expectations.... but you know, they never told you to build castles in the air..... they are sad that they lead you along without intending to but don't like fingers being unduly pointed at them...... after all, they never said they were looking for a commitment.... why blame them for your misunderstanding...... and its even worse when you associate this nature with their friendships and professional relationships...... they are friends that are just as reliable and professionals just as competent...... they prefer to be perceived as callous rather than telling you something that they know will never happen.......
............but thats the vicious underbelly they hope will change someday..... but neither does it keep them from living their life...... for a coquet all that is much too serious to actually follow..... and it acts as a deterrent to their ways that are strongly governed by their individuality.... while they are all respectable, serious and completely reliable when it comes to work and responsibility...... in matters of the heart either be really sure or it is always best to take their words and actions with a pinch of salt...... they are ingrained with the spirit of the wild horse that cannot be tamed, who desires nothing more than to enjoy their journey rather than focus on the destination........

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Want

... to want... is the most dangerous feeling ever...... sometimes its in the form of trivialities like chocolates, short trips, things and momentary feelings.... but some of them develop into this obsessive compulsion that take control over us..... so many times you've told yourself that its not going to happen........you can't get that...... its not meant to be..... its not practical........ its not good for you...... .but all these excuses pale in comparison to this blazing desire of yours..... where reason, playing fair and cest la vie are merely words that mean nothing to you..... these are things that teach you a lot about yourself..... there are many who in their own pace and method eventually get over these fierce wants..... sometimes all it takes is time to cool this ardor and you can resume to normalcy........ other times something better comes along or something takes its place altogether.... distractions and busy schedules do wonders and can be considered the penultimate prescription for this disease.......
......... but most fearful it is when they don't let go at all and there is no hope for any such remedies....... we hope for something to happen or discover a completely new remedy and restore some faith in the universes capacity to eventually make everything alright..... but when the process is delayed or doesn't result in anything at all..... it leads to undesirable outcomes....... one must have the capacity to control ones own wants and desires.... otherwise such objects
should never stray before them, for they are sure to go for the saying that the only way to rid temptation, is to yield to it........

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

...Another Chapter Begins...

......... College is done........ end of possibly the most vibrant and carefree chapter....... a little unfair to say that this would be the end of fun and spontaneity altogether..... theres much more to come...... and much more to experience..... that is to say if i dont get run over by a truck or something.... that would just be a very sad and abrupt ending, i wouldn't wish for anyone...... at the brink of something, before i have delved into anything...... this is a very prominent albeit a little lazy moment!...... at home, figuring out your next step - not something too confusing as the next step is to find a job...... one that gives you a little satisfaction, means to survive and something to do........ but i fear that ill also be one in those list of people who say that they dont know where their years went........... some people say that this is the time to put in as much work and struggle you possibly can and draw the returns when your older......... that seems like a fairly practical and a biologically sound cycle..... but what point is there in your youth, if you cant enjoy it...... what point is there in your youth if you cant sit back and take advantage of the most desired phase of life...... what point is there in your youth if you dont have fun and make mistakes that is fodder for many joyful afternoons when your old....... i dont agree that we should just work away the best years of our life..... its not fair to us, its not fair to the creator (if you believe in one) who crafted this phase just so that you can feel what it is to be alive...... the energy, the rush - all the good and bad of it......
Theres so much more to this time than I may even be able to comprehend.... a lot of things to do...... some you want to and some you have to..... but then didn't everyone feel this way.... i doubt the woman who sits on the same table everyday, doing the same routine day after day has her dream fulfilled........ i wonder.... theres a whole life left, and before you go to work there seems to be so much to do before responsibilities, bills etc etc........ its almost cruel to dream .... of painting canvas after canvas......... of rigging my boat to sail through and maybe fish a little on the journey...... of reading books and when you've read enough watch film after film...... when you've had your fill of literature....... maybe drive down picturesque roads after you've navigated your way through many bumpy and smoky city roads......... Budweiser at your favourite pub........ and many such beautiful moments that'll stand the test of time and you'll remember like it was yesterday even when you turn 80.....
........But Such is Life....... as they say...... and we must move on..... its a tragedy that we cant stay frozen in time..... but then if there is a creator he wouldn't be happy with a world full of college goers drunk on beer and maybe a little too high on happiness.......